In our relationships we often stay in adversarial positions with others because each of us is defending our interpretation of a situation. We each believe that OUR beliefs, memory, and feelings about the situation are correct and so we keep repeating and repeating our "truth" to the other person, expecting them finally to admit we are right, while they hold the same expectation about us! As long as both sides maintain this attitude, there is no peace or resolution.What harm could it do to ask a few questions in the quiet of our own minds? Let's begin with this...was there a time in your life when you began creating a protective armor around yourself, picking up certain demeanors to avoid harsh words, guilt, fear? Usually those demeanors cause you to disconnect from a reality that is unpleasant. Those demeanors may have been life-saving in the past but now are creating the wrong sort of disconnections with those you care about.
Staying locked in a position increases chaos. It stands to reason that being flexible in our beliefs and attitudes will decrease chaos. Flexibility is not uncertainty. It is not weakness. Flexibility in our beliefs and attitudes leads to inner transformation.
So today ask yourself these questions: What am I being called to release? What am I being called to embrace? What must I cultivate in me to bring the feeling of love, not strife, to the surface? What must I do to remember my unity with all people and to bring authenticity and loving connection to each encounter?
We attract to us what we first become so let's consistently send out only loving vibrations. And let's start right now!
I'm holding the high watch!
Rev. Donna
